Dr Phil Show - Bait and Switch Bride [01-07-2014] {OZFox42}

Bait and Switch Bride?

(April 18, 2014)

Ben says his wife of six months, Kelly, completely changed for the worse after they got married, and he feels duped. Kelly says she’s lost her self-worth because Ben demeans her every day, and she suspects he’s been cheating on her. Can Dr. Phil get to the truth? And, can this marriage be saved?

Marriage Meltdown

Ben says Kelly pulled a “bait and switch” after he says she “trapped” him and forced him into marriage six months ago. Ben says after the paperwork was signed, Kelly completely changed for the worse — she gained weight, stopped being affectionate and stopped cleaning and cooking his favorite meals. Ben says he’s “disgusted” by his wife’s appearance and says if they didn’t have their 4-year-old son, he would have left by now.

“When I look at Kelly, I feel disgusted and grossed out,” Ben says. “I don’t even go anywhere with Kelly because I don’t want anybody to see me with her. I’m embarrassed to be around Kelly because she’s gained so much weight. Kelly’s gained about 80 pounds. It grosses me out when I watch Kelly eat. She just kind of shovels the food in, and it’s all business. It’s feeding time. Her thighs are so big, she doesn’t have a walk. It’s not even a walk; it’s a waddle. She has rolls on her. It almost looks like she has boobs in the front and boobs in the back. I hate coming home after a long day to seeing a beached whale on the couch. When I think about Kelly, I think, ‘Man, what have I done here? What have I done to deserve this? Why do I have this? I mean, really? Really?’”

Kelly admits she has gained weight since getting married but says she’s lost her self-worth because Ben demeans her every day. She says Ben lost 100 pounds and then turned into a “narcissist” and a “jerk”— and she suspects he is cheating on her.

Kelly tells Dr. Phil that she gained weight when she had their son, but other than that, she says, “I don’t feel I’ve changed.”

“How could you not, when he demeans you in this way?” Dr. Phil asks her.

“You just get numb to it,” Kelly says.

The Toll on Their Son

In a previous interview, Ben and Kelly admit they fight in front of their 4-year-old son, who will get in between them when they’re yelling. “Just the other day, my son yelled, ‘Dad, you’re a cheater!’ My heart just dropped,” Ben says.

Kelly grows tearful. “He probably heard me say it. That’s too much responsibility for him at 4 years old.”

“I wish we could be better parents for the sake of our son,” Ben says.

Dr. Phil tells Kelly, “You have a decision to make here. I understand that your self-worth is damaged … There’s clearly an unhealthy situation here, and you’re a role model for this son as well. The first thing that has to happen here is you’ve got to get Kelly back.”

Dr. Phil tells her she has to be there for her child, which means taking care of his mother. He offers her resources to help her get to a healthier place mentally, emotionally and physically — and then she can make a decision about her marriage “And whenever you make a decision about what to do with your life and family, make it from a position of strength, not weakness,” he says.

Dr. Phil turns to Ben. “I think you screwed the pooch here,” he says. “Your coping has been very immature. You have had legitimate concerns about your marriage, but you’ve had illegitimate ways of dealing with them. And you’re insight is really low.” Dr. Phil offers Ben professional resources as well. “You need it, I’m telling you.”

“I know,” he says. He accepts.

Type: TV Rip
Video format: MPEG-4 (MP4)
Audio format: AAC 2ch stereo
Approximate runtime: 41 minutes
Genre: talk show
Australian air date: 1st July, 2014

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