Dr Phil Show - Sexual Standoffs [5-06-2014] {OZFox42}

Sexual Standoffs

(March 26,, 2014)

Reagan says his wife of two years, Sara, refuses to have sex with him, which has forced him to turn to gambling and other women “for an adrenaline rush.” Sara says Reagan is acting like an impulsive teenager — and not meeting her needs emotionally. Plus, after only a year of marriage, Skyla and Ryan say they are at a sexual standoff that has pushed them to the brink of divorce. Can Dr. Phil help these couples get back on track?

Reagan and Sara

"Boredom is my enemy," Reagan says. "I have a problem with adrenaline, and I will use the adrenaline to get excitement, whether it's getting a text from a woman, gambling or watching sports." Reagan admits to cheating on his wife, Sara, twice — once in 2007, when she was pregnant with their son, and also seven months ago, when Reagan says he had a "sexting" relationship with a woman.

"Reagan tells me that he gambles and he cheats because he's bored," Sara says. "I think that's bull-crap. I'm bored all the time, and I don't do that. What about all the husbands who aren't cheating and sexting and gambling? Are they never bored?" Sara insists that if Reagan wants their sex life to improve, he needs to put more effort into meeting her emotional needs. "I feel a lot of resentment toward Reagan, and I have no sexual desire toward a man who acts like a teenager," she says.

Sara explains that she found out about Reagan's sexting from their 6-year-old son. "We were driving one day, and our son, Grayson, says to me, ‘Mom, I saw this video on Daddy’s phone' ... I just thought, ‘What on Earth? What could he have seen?'” Sara recalls that Reagan brushed it off, but then several months later, she found explicit pictures on his cell phone. "I knew then that Grayson was telling the truth," she says. "I confronted Reagan, and he admitted that he had been sending pictures and receiving them from another woman." Sara says shortly after that, she took their two kids and moved out of state to her parents' house.

Skyla and Ryan

Skyla says that before she and Ryan got married, they had a very active sex life, but now, a year later, it's almost non-existent. She explains, "Ryan and I were having sex, and I don't know what happened, but I heard a pop, and then I got a really sharp pain." Skyla says after that, sex was painful, which caused her to withdraw from Ryan. "It got to a point where it started psychologically messing with me," she says. Skyla adds that because they have an infant daughter, it's hard to find private time. "We went from having sex six or seven times a day to not at all or once a week, if he’s lucky," she says.

Ryan confides, "Without sex in our marriage, it really made a big impact, especially as active as I am. I was bummed out." He adds that Skyla is "very comfortable in her skin" and likes to walk around naked, which he thinks is leading him on. "I turn into a child sometimes and walk around the house like a kid having a temper tantrum," Ryan admits. "I like to slam doors and get angry, just because I'm sexually frustrated."

"I hate that it's come to this," Skyla says onstage, tearfully. "I'm 18. These aren't issues you should be having this early on, or at all. That's not what I wanted for my marriage or for myself."

"I have anger issues," Ryan admits. "It's resulted a lot from my childhood. It needs to be resolved, and I'm willing to work on it."

"Are you physically abusive to her?" Dr. Phil asks.

"Yes, I am, but she is, as well, to me," Ryan says. "She kneed me in the face, and I blacked out, it seemed like. When I woke up, I had her on the ground with my hands around her throat."

"I think we have two very damaged individuals here, who are now damaging each other," Dr. Phil tells Ryan and Skyla. He mentions that growing up, Ryan ended up in foster care. "Children who grow up in that kind of situation become very self-sufficient," he says. "That doesn't mean he's a bad guy. It just means he's had a rough road and doesn't necessarily even understand what this chip on his shoulder is all about."

Dr. Phil also mentions that Skyla was a victim of molestation. "You have to be sensitive to that," he tells Ryan. "You have to start saying, 'I have to think about somebody besides myself. Let me put myself in her shoes for a minute and wonder what kind of chaos is going on in her head when she's been through everything she's been through."

Type: TV Rip
Video format: MPEG-4 (MP4)
Audio format: AAC 2ch stereo
Approximate runtime: 41 minutes
Genre: talk show
Australian air date: 5th June, 2014

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